Misandry Should Be Condemned As Much As Misogyny

WARNING: this post mentions domestic violence and abuse. If this is triggering for you, proceed with caution. 


There is a hashtag trend apparently floating around Reddit #EndFathersDay (according to Twitchy.com). According to the blogger, it was meant to be a parody, I’m guessing of the hashtag #YesAllWomen on Twitter. If it’s meant to be satirical, frankly, I don’t find it funny, and if it isn’t, it’s atrocious.

Firstly, hate campaigns, including misandry are just cheap. In my honest opinion, it takes away from the issue of violence against women, rather than successfully condemning it.

Secondly, what about men who have been abused, either as adults or children? Shouldn’t they have a voice as well as female victims? Statistically, as I understand, the majority of domestic violence in the West is perpetrated by men and the majority of victims are girls and women. But there are men who have been or are victims of abuse and, like female victims, their voices should be heard. Recently in the UK, there was a social experiment where they had a man and a woman having a physical altercation. When the woman was being hit and shoved, onlookers rightfully intervened and the man was rebuked. However, when the tables were turned and the man was being physically assaulted by the woman, no one intervened and some people were even amused rather than horrified. I just habpve to ask ‘why?’.

One theory I have is that we have had a warped sense of what is ‘masculinity’ for too long. That has bred indifference, as well as hatred of men in the West.men can’t be victims, only perpetrators of violence. This warped vision of masculinity has also affected the way women want to be perceived because they wasn’t to reject the notion of feminity, but also adopting “masculine” traits that society condemns when exercised by men. Why can’t those traits be condemned outright for both men and women?

Please note, I am in no way defending violence agai st women or watering down it’s prevalence or impact. What I’m arguing is that misandry shouldn’t be tolerated, like misogyny and violence against women should not be tolerated. If we want gender equality, we need to work together, not against each other. I’ve argued before that reverse discrimination doesn’t help anyone, neither does division (see “Elitism Shouldn’t Be Encouraged By Anyone”). Two wrongs don’t make a right.

2 comments on “Misandry Should Be Condemned As Much As Misogyny

  1. Luzbelitx says:

    Actually, both the video: http://wehuntedthemammoth.com/2014/05/30/is-the-mankind-initiatives-violenceisviolence-video-a-fraud/ and the hashtag http://wehuntedthemammoth.com/2014/06/15/endfathersday-trolls-being-trolls-or-black-propaganda-designed-to-tear-apart-feminism/ are frauds created by anti-feminist to simulate a “social experiment” and a hate campaign.

    As in: misandry is so real that people trying to look like they’re fighting it need to go make it up.

  2. PurplesShade says:

    I wanted to add another thought about that video — And I want to be clear from the outset that females are, as far as we know, a very small percentage of abusers, more often they are male, and I’m not ignoring that I just want to talk about our view of female abusers in particular.

    Abusers who are female may actually not be taken seriously because of misogyny.
    Often we view women as, not as capable of hurting people as men, especially not men themselves.
    Society portrays women, and seems to want to view women, as small, weak, and physically incapable of hurting a man (which is misogynistic and a gross over-generalization).
    Obviously you and I know that this is untrue, but to be clear society is still behinds the times on a lot of things, so that there are people still openly pedaling the idea that women have no physical prowess, shouldn’t be super surprising.
    When they (we, as society) do that, we undermine victims of female abusers in the process because we suggest that they are too weak to be ‘real abusers’, and do ‘real damage’.
    That is misogyny, and it is a dangerous example of it, to believe that women are too weak to commit acts of violence is to enforce the idea that women both are victims (in both the minds of abusers and abusees) and to create a scenario where victims of violence accept that violence, be it because they think their gender means they aren’t “really” being abused, or because they think they “should” be a victim.
    It is simply yet another example of not taking women seriously enough, believing there are many more limits on women than physicality truly imposes, and the result is not good for anyone.

    I can’t say how common this is, but in my life, my father was asked about potentially being an abuse victim, and though he was treated with a lot of compassion, it was assumed by default that any abuse my mother may have been the cause of, would be emotional in nature only.
    (This probably biases me heavily, but still, I haven’t seen evidence against my life experience being the norm.)

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