Would Same – Sex Marriage Be A Start?

I’m a real scatter – brain when it comes to the same – sex marriage debate, so bear with me if you can.

I read this article that was linked on the Christian Democratic Party website before. Now of course, the CDP vocally support the traditional definition of marriage. No surprise. This article, though isn’t written by any member or supporter of the party, but Serena Ryan, a broadcaster who hosts the LGBTQ station The Standard on Omni Radio and Radio.net. Although she says that she supports same – sex marriage, Ryan argues that that’s not the main issue surrounding LGBT equality. Issues she raised included:

  • LGBTQ youth homelessness
  • Mental illness in the LGBTQ community
  • Drug and alcohol abuse
  • LGBT domestic violence
  • Lack of services equipped to assisting LGBT people

Ryan’s right. The legalising of same – sex marriage won’t solve these issues. I’d also add a few others, adding the “plus” of LGBTQ+ into the equation. Same – sex marriage alone won’t:

  • Eradicate bi – erasure and bi – phobia
  • Won’t prevent transphobia
  • Won’t prevent ignorance toward the asexual community
  • Won’t prevent the coercion and harassment faced by members of the asexual community or even other members of the LGBTQ+ community
  • Won’t end the negative stereotypes faced by members of the LGBTQ+
  • Won’t prevent discrimination WITHIN the LGBTQ+

So, let’s face it, if the plebiscite in Australia went through and the Government (whoever won the next election), and they stuck to their promise and same – sex marriage was legalised, it wouldn’t fix all the struggles faced within the LGBTQ+ community. However, I’ve got to say, I can see merit with the pro same – sex marriage debate. Same – sex marriage would make same – sex couples equal in the eyes of the law. Same – sex couples will be able to make their commitment public, front of family and friends (well, hopefully). Is it a stretch to say that the legalisation of same – sex marriage may put issues such as same – sex coupled domestic violence out of the shadows? If same – sex marriage was legalised and made public, willl it make mental health organisations more likely to brush up on their skills and expertise in dealing with LGBTQ+ properly? I don’t know, these are just my thoughts.

What do you think? Would the legalisation of same – sex marriage be the start of dealing with other issues faced by the LGBTQ+ community?

Does ‘Love At First Sight’ Exist?


On ‘Studio 10’ today, the panel was discussing whether ‘love at first sight’ which was sparked by this post Where the author said that when he married his wife 16 years before, it she wasn’t his ‘best friend’ and that love grew over time. He didn’t deny that there was a spark, but he didn’t call it love, I guess.

Interesting point. So, that brings a question, what is love? And when does it start? When the infatuation has died down? I don’t think romantic love/ attraction whatever, can be forced. I think it’s either there, either initially or even later on or it’s not. To tell you the truth, when I first heard about this, I was a bit skeptical because I’ve noticed what a number of same – sex marriage opponents do is, in my opinion, play down the part of attraction often plays and what most people take for granted.

So, where does love start? Is it that lust/ infatuation is often a ‘spark’ but love is a ‘fire’ that develops later?

What do you think?