Lovely non – sexual/ non – romantic relationships in film

These days are a bit tense. I often talk about pretty tense stuff here. Now I want to lighten the mood a bit by going back to the ‘Lovely Non – Sexual/ Non/Romantic Relationships in Film’ series that I started last year.

‘The Lion King’, ‘The Lion King II: Simba’s Pride’ and  ‘Timon and Pumbaa’ were all moviesI grew up watching. I had ‘The Lion King’ one and two on video (that’s going back a bit!). I’ve seen ‘Timon and Pumbaa’ but never owned them, they were borrrowed.


Anyway, enough background about me. I always loved Timon and Pumbaa, especially Timon because meerkats are so cute! I loved the song ‘Hakuna Matata’.

Simba: What’s a motto?

Timon: Nothing. What’s the matter with you?



Ah, memories.

Nature of Relationships Worth Having

When I saw the episode of Winners and Losers, I cried. It was just after I came out to my cousin. That  was when I realised what love meant. The bond that the three girls, Frances James (Virginia Gaye), Sophie Wong (Melanie Vellejo) and Jenny Gross (Melissa Bergland) have is such a beautiful and rare thing. Friends since high school, in mid twenties, their relationships survive break ups, cancer scare of a parent (Jenny’s mother Trish, played by Denise Scott), and many other trials. Yet, their friendships survive and thrive through it all and even more.

This particular episode, especially where the 1927’s ballad was sung made me emotional because I realised what love is (at least at a messy human level). All relationships, whether familial, friendship, etc have their trials. In the end, truths about everyone come to light, both good and bad. People laugh, cry, get mad, yet, sometimes by a miracle, survive great storms. That is what we’re made for. Regardless of who you are, we all need different people by our side.

It is such a gift to have solid relationships. What I’ve been learning is to achieve the type of relationships you need in your life, you have to be willing to let people in. Those people who are worth your time will be the ones who will love you unconditionally.


I love this song. To me,it’s one of the loveliest songs ever written. It makes me think about and appreciate the friends I have. Friendship has always been important to me. Year Eight was the year when I truly grasped the value of friendship and how painful it can be when they end.

There have been certain people in my life who I have loved so much. These are the people I have never wanted to lose. I wanted them to know how much I care, despite the fact that I may not have been a perfect friend.

The biggest lesson I’ve been trying to come to terms with is that you can never make everyone happy all the time. That, and that true friends will accept you for who you are.

Everyone be needs people who are going to love them no matter what. I’m beginning to truly acknowledge that in my own life.

And if anyone of my friends ever read this: thank you do much for being my friend. 🙂 x


Opposite – Sex Friendships

I have a really good friend who is a guy. He’s just under two years younger than me. Nothing has, or ever will happen between us, even if I was straight. He’s currently got a partner who is expecting a baby.

i do not get the whole expectation of chemistry between opposite – sex friends. You can’t be attracted to EVERYONE of the gender/s you’re attracted to, can you? Some women actually prefer friendships with men because they think they have less drama (and no, they’re not gay).

i wonder if the over – sexualisation of male/ female relationships is the driving force of sexism in society (or worse). Why can’t we treat each other like human beings first and develop a culture of respect for the opposite gender as well as ourselves?

Maybe it’s too easy for me, as an asexual to make such a comment. I mean I don’t know what it’s like to be physically attracted to someone. My argument is that men and women can be without sexual tension hovering over their heads.

Has anyone got a really good/ best friend of the opposite sex?