Even I Admit Asexuality Doesn’t Make Sense

This week, I’ve been very critical of broadcaster Steve Price’s reaction to asexuality on The Project after they did a story on it last Monday.  While I still think he could’ve been more sensitive, I’m coming to understand why for most people, asexuality is such a hard concept for people to grasp.

Most science surrounding human sexuality surrounds sexual attraction and “spreading the seed” do to speak. Also, it’s accepted that primary non – platonic relationships are sexual. It’s easy for asexual people to say that there is a difference between sexual and romantic attraction and that they don’t always go hand in hand, but for allosexuals, it would be quite a foreign idea.

It also contradicts societal expectations in what young men and women should do. For me at least, realising I was asexual through my own expectations for myself out the window in regards to relationships and what it meant to be a woman. It’s still a work in progress.

I believe it’s only a matter of time when asexuality becomes better understood and, hopefully, accepted. I think we just need to be a little bit patient.

 

 

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What Hope Has Anyone Got When We Have Reality TV?

Soon (if it hasn’t started already), reality show “Please Marry My Boy” will be starting on Prime. For those who don’t know what the show’s about, mothers of men ranging from about 20’s to 40’s play ” matchmaker” if you will, to try and find their sons suitable wives.  Then, I guess, the men have the last say and form a relationships with, I guess, whoever they fall in love with.

Thing is, both the men, and especially the women, are ridiculously attractive. Sure, the mothers talk about values, compatibility, etc but, let’s face it, looks play a MAJOR role in the show.

Now, I’ve said before that for most people, physical attraction plays a big part in how people choose mates, but our society and the media have gone totally nuts! How is society and the media suppose to demonstrate concern  about eating disorders and poor self image and still advertise impossible beauty for both men and women?

Another problem I have about reality shows is how they portray how men and women relate to each other. Sure, it all looks sweet and respectful, but is respect really there? Last year, the Australian season of “The Bachelor” came under fire because one of the contestants accused the bachelor Tim (please forgive me, no idea of his last name. Feel free to tell me if you know), of dragging the girls along when he already knew who he was in love with anyway. One could argue that the former contestant was just jealous, but I think it does raise a serious question: how many people get emotionally hurt throughout these shows and what does that say about relationships? How does that inform the public how to relate to each other, especially in intimate relationships? Is honesty and care somewhat compromised?

i’m saying these things to sound like a bitter bag, seriously, I’m not. I just really question the messages that it sends to people and the effect it has on society and young people in particular. Feel free to add any thoughts you have.